Occasional conflict is a part of life according to a New York based psychologist. But if you and your partner feel like you’re living in your own nightmare I.e the same lousy situations keep repeating day after day, it’s time to break free of this routine. When you make the effort, you can lessen the anger and take a calm look at underlying issues
1. You and your partner can learn to argue in a more civil helpful manner
2. Realise you are not a victim. It’s your choice whether you react and how you react
3. Be honest with yourself. When you’re in the midst of an argument, are your comments geared towards resolving the conflict or are you looking for payback. If your comments are blaming and hurtful, it’s best to take a deep breath and change your strategy
4. Change it up.  If you continue to respond in the way that’s brought you plan and unhappiness in the past you can’t expect a different result this time. Just one little shift can make a big difference
5. If you usually Jump right in to defend yourself before your partner is finished speaking, hold off for a fee moments. You’ll be surprised at how such a small shift in tempo can change the whole tone of an argument
6. Give a little, get a lot. Apologize when you’re wrong. Sure, it’s tough but just try it and watch something wonderful happen. You can’t control anyone else’s behavior
The only one in your charge is you
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