People want to feel they deserve their good for tune
The recent of favor can become oppressive, it means you have been chosen because you are a friend, not necessarily because you are deserving .
There is almost a touch of condescension in the act of hiring friends that secretly afflicts them.
The injury will come out slowly, a little more honesty, flashes of resentments and envy here and there and before you know it your friendship fades
* The more favours and gifts you supply to receive friendship, the less gratitude u receive
* Ingratitude has a long and deep history, it is amazing that people continue to underestimate them
* Better to be wary,  if you never expect gratitude from a friend, you will be pleasantly surprised when they do prove grateful
* The problem with using or hiring your friends is that it will inevitably limit your power
* The friend is rarely the one who is most able to help you and in the end,  skill and competence are far more important than friendly feelings
* All working situations require a kind of distance between people,  you are trying to work not make friends
* Friendliness (true or false) only obscures the fact.
The key to power is the ability to judge who is best able to further your interests in all so

* Keep friends for friendship, but work with skilled and competent
* Your enemies on the other hand are an untapped cold mine that you must learn to exploit
* Without enemies around us, we get lazy
* Check on your enemies
* An enemy at all heels sharpens our wits, keeping is focused and alert
* We know by our enemies sooner than by our friend and family
* It is sometimes better to use our enemies as enemies instead of turning them into friends or allies
* Never pick up a fight with someone you are not sure you can defeat
* If you have no apparent enemies, you must sometimes set up a convenient target, even turning a friend into an enemy
* Use your enemy to define your cause more clearly to the public, even framing it as a struggle of good against evil
* Never let the presence of enemies upset or distress you
* You are far better off with a declared opponent than not knowing where your real enemies lie
* Use your enemy to enhance your reputation as a super footed fighter who can be relied upon in times of uncertainty
The jaws of ingratitude, knowing what would happen if you put a finger in the mouth of a lion, you would stay clear of it
* With friends, you will have no caution, and if you hire they will eat alive with ingratitude
* Know how to use enemies for your own profit. You must learn to grab a sword  not by its Blade, which would cut you, but by the handle which allows you to defend yourself.

The wise man profits more from his enemies, than a fool from his friends (Baltasar Gracia’s 1601-1658)

* Although, it is best not to mix work with friendship, there are times when a friend can be used to greater effect than enemy
* A man of power often has dirty work that has to be done, but for the sake of appearance it is generally preferable to have other people do it for him, friends often do this best, since their affection for him makes them willing to take chances
* If you plans go awry for some reasons, you can use a friend as a convenient scapegoat
* You can also use “the fall of favourite
The fall of favourite means you will force your friend to take the blame for your mistakes in the court, since the public would not believe that they would deliberately sacrifice a friend for such a purpose

But, after playing that card,  you have lost your friend forever, so it best to use someone who is close to you but not too close

* You must never let your guard down in a business with friend always be mindful of any signs of emotional disturbances such as envy and ingratitude
* Nothing is stable in the realm of power, even your closest of friends can be transformed into the worst of enemies
* Being in a business /venture with your friend can yield great effect in both partners understand the dangers involved
Finally, the problem about working with friends is that it confuses the boundaries and distances that working requires.
It not everyone you know or meet are your friends, some just come and make a negative or positive impact in our lives, no bad vibes.

So ask yourself “are your friends really your friends”. Do you have friends or frenemies





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