While in an unhealthy relationship,
1, You put one person before the other by neglecting yourself or your partner
2, You feel pressure to change who you are for the other person
3, You feel worried when you disagree with the other person
4, You feel pressure to quit activities you usually/ used to enjoy
5, You pressure the other person into agreeing with you or changing to suit you better
6, You notice one of you has to justify your actions (e.g, where you go, who you see)
7, You notice one partner feels obligated to have sex or has been forced
8, You have a lack of privacy and may be forced to share everything with the other person
9, You or your partner refuse to use safer sex methods
10, You notice arguments are not settled fairly
11, You experience yelling or physical violence during an argument
12, You attempt to control or manipulate each other
13, You notice your partner attempts to control how you dress and criticizes your behaviours
14, You do not make time to spend with one another
15, You have no common friends, or have a lack of respect for each other’s friends and family
16, You notice an unequal control of resources (e.g food, money, home, car e.t.c)
17, You experience a lack of fairness and equality
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At times all relationships will have some of the characteristics listed above. However, unhealthy relationship will exhibit these characteristics more often and cause you stress and pressure that is hard to avoid. This tension is unhealthy for both members of the relationship and may lead to problems in other areas of your life.
If some of your relationships have some of these characteristics it does not necessarily mean the end of that relationship. By recognizing how these characteristics affect you, you can begin to work on improving the negative aspect of your relationships to benefit both of you
If a partner ever tries to harm you physically or force you to do something sexually that should be a clear sign for you that it is an unhealthy relationship. In that situation, you should consider getting help or ending the relationship. Even if you do believe the person loves you, it does not make up for the harm they are doing to you. When you are unhappy in a relationship, but cannot decide if you should accept your unhappiness, try to improve the relationship or end the relationship. When you have decided to leave a relationship, but find yourself still in the relationship.
When you think you are staying in the relationship for the wrong reasons such as fear of bring alone or guilt. If you have a history of staying in unhealthy relationships
This is when you should seek professional help before it gets too late and too hard for u to make a decision and it’s gonna kill u forever.
In conclusion, click here to read about signs of a healthy relationship






Comments (8)

  1. Yewande Joseph
    April 20, 2018 Reply

    Well said. I hope women will be brave enough to walk away from unhealthy relationship. These are the things we must look into before ever trying to settle down with a patner.

  2. dunni_stitches A DUN NI
    April 20, 2018 Reply

    I hope so too but women go into relationships for the wrong reasons and some cos they are lonely

  3. Monidipa Dutta
    April 22, 2018 Reply

    Good 1

  4. Kari Blake
    April 22, 2018 Reply

    It's such a gradual process for someone who ends up in a severely unhealthy, or dangerous relationship. This a great post to help people identify the potential problems in their relationships, but I think there needs to be more education in schools, specifically around relationships, etc.

    It's a great post, and a very important topic.

  5. dunni_stitches A DUN NI
    April 22, 2018 Reply

    Thank you ma'am

  6. dunni_stitches A DUN NI
    April 22, 2018 Reply

    Glad you were able to relate to it and happy you enjoyed it

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    April 23, 2018 Reply

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  8. dunni_stitches A DUN NI
    April 24, 2018 Reply

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