Relationship

HOW TO ASK A SHY GIRL OUT ON A DATE

Depending on the girl, you may actually find that she is not as shy as you thought she was. In this case, you may be surprised when she asks you out herself or starts dropping hints about how she wants to spend more time with you.
If this doesn’t happen with the particular girl you’re interested in, or you become to not being able to stand not knowing if she would like to go out with you, you’ll want to consider how best to ask her out.
Tips on asking her out
* Be sure to not have anyone around when you ask her. Having other people around when you ask will only pressure her and make her uncomfortable and shy.
* If she’s still shy around you and you think that talking to her will make her shy. You could consider writing her a note.
* Keep it casual and don’t stretch it out. Avoid any long awkward build ups to asking her.
* invite her out for an ice cream and judging from how she reacts, ask is she would like to be your girlfriend.
* Wait for the right moment. There will usually come a time when it feels right to ask her out
“A first date with a shy girl is best done out of public eye”
First Date(s) with a shy girl
Much like when you ask her out, it’s a good idea to go somewhere where there’s not a lot of people around, or people she knows. Showing any form of affection, at least at first, in a public setting will probably make her a little shy and awkward.
The ideal first date would be somewhere where you can spend time along, without the pressures of anyone around to make her feel more nervous. Going for a walk, a state park or a quiet diner are all good ideas.
Also, be sure that the first time you two hold hands or kiss (again this depends on how shy she still is) would probably be best if it happened with just the two of you around.
Do not move too fast
Moving too fast could cause her to become shy around you again, setting you both back in the relationship you were building. It’s best to move slowly or ask if she’s comfortable if you’re unsure of whether or not she’s ready for holding hands or to go to a movie. (This is usually helpful in young relationships in middle school or high school where everyone is getting a feel for dating).
Again, it really depends on how shy the girl is and her reasons for being shy. She may open up to you quickly or she may remain very shy with you for a long time. Be sure to keep in mind that this relationship will take a long time to develop.
       Communication is key
If you move too fast, she may end up not knowing how to deal with the situation. This can lead to her avoiding you, not answering your phone calls or lying about stupid things in order to try to keep you away. These are signs that you’re going to fast or that she’s not into you.
Final thoughts and advice
Dating a shy girl is not much different than dating any other girl, except for that fact that you’ll have to spend a lot more time making sure she is comfortable and that you’re not moving too fast.
The first few months or weeks (depending on the girl) will be slow until the girl starts opening up to you. After she does this, you’ll soon find out more things about her and will probably figure out why she was so shy in the first place.
Just be sure to relieve any of the pressure she’ll be feeling of overcoming her shyness and show her your support and love. This is key in dating a shy girl and maintaining that relationship. Be open with her and honest and she’ll do the same with you.
A quick note from personal experience: I’ve actually found that certain people just make you feel more comfortable than others. If holding someone’s hand or being close to them causes either of you any discomfort or makes you nervous, you may want to consider if this is the right person for you.
I’ve had one boyfriend who I never could feel comfortable around (thankfully it ended) and another boyfriend who I felt instantly comfortable around.
There’s no point in forcing any relationship if you’re not happy or comfortable with it. It may seem like a bad note to leave on, but there are “plenty of fish in the sea” and the one person who does make you feel comfortable and loved may just be out there waiting for you. So girl just love yourself while waiting for the right person, don’t blame yourself for your relationship mistakes or problems or the way you are just be yourself girl, be happy and enjoy life while you still can.

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    March 25, 2019 Reply

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