Getting to know someone who is shy can be a frustrating experience, especially if you don’t know the reasons why that particular person is shy. In a dating situation you may read the signs wrong or not be able to judge if she is actually into you or interested.
Why are people shy
Before you even consider to date a shy girl or befriend her, it’s important to understand that people are shy for their own reasons. Some girls are shy because they have had a bad experience in the past, such as getting bullied for being the  “know-it-all” in class while others learned from their parents to never talk unless spoken to. Some girls are also more shy around boys, especially if they’ve never had someone interested in them before.
Knowing that there are multiple reasons to why people are shy will allow you to understand and be patient with the girl you’re wanting to get to know (and potentially date). Being too straightforward and pushing her to talk will only make her feel pressured and less likely to feel comfortable around you.
The most important thing to remember is that it takes time for a shy person to open up and feel comfortable around someone new.
How to make Her feel comfortable
The key to dating a girl who is shy is simply to make her feel comfortable. If you can make a girl comfortable around you, you’re well on your way to being able to ask her out (or have her ask you out)
“Knowing a shy girl interest can really help break the barrier”
Things that will make her self conscious
* Saying that she is shy will only make he more uncomfortable.
* Pointing out that she doesn’t talk much or trying too hard to make her talk will have the opposite effect. It actually makes the girl feel more pressured and nervous and will feel less comfortable around you.
* Kissing in public or showing affection in public (at first especially)
Tips on making a shy girl comfortable around you
One of the easiest and most effective ways to get a shy girl to be comfortable around you is to make her laugh and be goofy around her. Let her know that you’re the biggest goofball between the two of you.
This will make her feel comfortable because she’ll be able to forget how shy she is and let go of any pressure she feels in trying to make conversations or worrying if she’s making a fool of herself.
If you’re not a person who is naturally goofy or outgoing, it’s also helpful to just take your time and not notice or care about her awkwardness or shy tendencies.
Over time, she’ll begin to feel better around you because her fears of not knowing what to say will go away. Being patient and not forcing her to talk will allow her to become confident and feel like what she has to say will be important.
Ask her questions. If you really like this girl, it’s easy to just ask her questions about what she likes or what she thinks of things. This takes the pressure off of her so she’s not worried about not knowing what to say.
This will also give her a point in the conversation where she knows it’s okay to talk and where she knows you want to know what she thinks about something.
Just be sure to not pester her with too many questions, especially if she seems to become more shy and withdrawn.
If you know what she’s into, that’s an easy way to start talking to her, especially if you both share a common interest, such as art or music.
Avoid pointing out that she is not shy or does not talk much
One of the sure fire ways to make a shy girl feel uncomfortable is to bring up how she’s shy or mention how she’s not talking. It might be frustrating at first, but by constantly pestering her and telling her how shy she is.
Among shy people, being called shy is one of the most irritating observations you can point out because shy people already know they are shy.
Pointing it out just draws more attention to the fact.
Understand that shy people need time to be alone
Chances are, if she’s shy, she’s an introvert and she may need time to herself every once in a while to feel better. If she doesn’t feel up to going to a big party with you, don’t make her feel bad about it (chance are she’ll beat herself up about it more than you will).
Getting over shyness and wanting to be a part of your life, in your social life and hanging out with friends is going to be a huge change. Be supportive. If you push her too far, she may end up withdrawing from you and feel like she’s not good enough or can’t talk to people anymore.
What is she thinking
When trying to know whether a girl is interested in you, a shy girl can be one of the trickiest to figure out. An easy way to know if she’s into you is to see how she reacts over time to you.
If she starts to not be so shy around you, there’s a good chance that she likes you. In order for her to consider dating you, she has to feel comfortable around you and want to spend time with you.
The first encounters will more or less be her thinking about how she doesn’t know what to say.
This can be really stressful as the more she feels like she can’t talk or doesn’t know how to keep you interested the more pressure she’ll feel and more shy she will get. This is why being goofy and making her laugh will help her feel more comfortable as she will be able to not feel the pressure having to talk.
As you continue to become her friend or show interest in her, she may begin to start wondering what you still are interested in liking her.
Depending on what kind of shy girl she is, she may have never considered someone like you would like her. There may come a time when she’ll bring this up with you. It’s important at this time to understand where she’s coming from and not brush aside her feelings.
Shy people often have a hard time dealing with and getting over being shy, so if she’s willing to open up to you and share her feelings, be sure to listen and let her know that you don’t care that she is shy.
Would you prefer asking a shy girl out or have her ask you out?
In conclusion, click here to read about dating a shy guy

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