There comes a point in nearly everyone’s life when its time to hit the reset button. There are events that call for a total shift involving a big mindset transformation and a change in health, career, spirituality, relationship and lifestyle… Sometimes a partial reset or contrive is in order which may be or more of any of the above..
When something bad happens you have three choices;
You can let it define
Let it destroy you
Or You can let it strengthen you


Self contrive checklist
Back up
A new self image: create a new image for yourself and set your new goals

How to plan yourself
Once you have the self contrive checklist the next thing to do is to find out what your strengths are
Try new things
Manage your finances well
Be courageous
Use your back up plan
Remind yourself everyday of your commitment
Accept failure, learn and start your journey
You are never too old to set another goal or a new dream
Create the future you envision: sit quietly, close your eyes and see the people, places or situation you need to leave behind
Surround yourself with visual reminders of the life you’d like to create. Now that you have a vision of your futurity, break it up into a feasible tasks, everyday go back to that vision of you walking towards your future

If you want to move forward, your motto should be change or die. Most people want to be better, happier have a healthier relationship but what is holding us all back… Change
We need to know what and how to change;
The struggle; Most people actually have good ideas that will work
The downside with no upside; There is a fundamental problem with giving your ideas away
All contrive requires change. But not able changes are reinvention

1. Responsive contrive
2. Proactive contrive
3. The third type comes from failure
Responsive contrive; occurs when an external event happens and forces you to change. You must change to move on because the event that occur is irreversible so you must change if you want to move on..
You lose your job
Your spouse dies
You suffer an injury
You make a drastic mistake
Your girlfriend/boyfriend dumps you
Your boyfriend/girlfriend is cheating on you


Proactive contrive; is a policy or person or action controlling a situation by causing something to happen rather than waiting to respond to it after it happens.
You want a new job
You want to start a new business
You want to become healthier
You want to learn a new skill
You want to start a new relationship
You want to do something you have never done before

This is the land of dreamers and entrepreneurs who believe that there is a better way to live. The beauty of any type of contrive is that even though it is difficult to start, the person you become is often better and stronger than before.

Life happens and it completely turns your life upside down. Just because everything is going bad in your life right now doesn’t mean you should give in.. We all have setbacks in one way or the other if you ask yourself or people around was this how you imagined your life to be or was this how you planned your life
You gonna get different replies, good and bad that doesn’t mean you should give up.. Just contrive yourself, most of the successful people out there didn’t go according to their plan.. Successful people contrive themselves the most..

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Comments (11)

  1. Katy LV
    July 28, 2018 Reply

    So true! It's really important to look forwards

  2. shahenda thebookgeek
    July 28, 2018 Reply

    I loooooved the photoshoot and your smile. Keep Going

  3. Universal Blogger
    July 28, 2018 Reply

    This post has deep factsfacts.

  4. theadunni__
    July 28, 2018 Reply

    I know right

  5. theadunni__
    July 28, 2018 Reply

    Thank you… Really appreciate

  6. theadunni__
    July 28, 2018 Reply

    Glad you could relate

  7. Marjorie Nazaire
    July 29, 2018 Reply

    I am a firm believer that everything happen for a reason, therefore whenever something negative comes along my way, I learn from it and move on.

  8. Unknown
    July 29, 2018 Reply

    Excellent thoughts for dealing with life clearly and simply presented.

  9. theadunni__
    July 30, 2018 Reply

    That's the spirit

  10. theadunni__
    July 30, 2018 Reply

    Thank you

  11. theaduni
    October 25, 2018 Reply

    thank you.. glad you enjoyed it

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