I get this question very often, I like this guy but I don’t know if he loves me. Not to worry anymore ladies.. have got the answer to your questions. I call them the three P’s of MEN

PROFESS; if you’ve been dating a guy for at least ninety days and you’ve never met his mother, you don’t go to his church/mosque together, you haven’t been around his friends or family, you haven’t been to any function together or he took you to a social function and introduced you by your name, you are not in his plan, he doesn’t see you as his future.

A profession is key- you will know if a man is serious about you once he claims you

PROVIDE; A man who loves you will bring that money home to make sure you are okay and have everything you need. That is their role- their purpose. This is the core of manhood to be the provider. That’s what it’s all about. For example, how well you’re endowed- and I’m not talking about financially and how well can you provide-now I’m talking financially. If a man is been questioned very often if he can provide for his family, the one he loves, you might as well drop-kick his ego into an early grave. But remember what drives a man, real men do what they have to do to make sure their people are taken care of and reasonably satisfied and if they are doing anything less than that, they are not men- or shall we say he’s not your man, because he will definitely do this for someone’s daughter, maybe not you.

Know this, ‘’it is your right to know that a man will pay for your dinner, your movie ticket, your club entry fee or whatever else he has to pay for in exchange for your time’’

You all have to stop this foolishness with the ‘’I pay for my dinner so I don’t need him’’approach’’ a real man anyway wants to feel needed. And the easiest way to help him get that high is to let him provide for you. This is only fair

Nowadays, there are different ways to provide besides monetarily. Your man could be broke but he’s going to do everything within his power to make up for this by supplying your needs in other tangible ways.

PROTECT; When a man truly loves you, anybody who says, does and treat you badly or disrespects you have to answer to him. He protects you with his all and he doesn’t think about anything. Your man will destroy anything in his path just to protect you. This is the nature of all men, no matter how strict, harsh or wicked they are, the people they love most always comes first. No matter how long you’ve stopped talking or how often you have an argument they can’t bear it when someone is trying to hurt their loved ones, they protect you at that particular place and time even if you going to end up having a misunderstanding after, because that’s what they supposed to do.

Indeed, that is what every man is supposed to do and is willing to do for the people for whom he professes and provides to. Once he says he cares about you, you are a prized possession to him, he will do anything too protect that prized possession. If your ex is calling and bringing drama to your life, he comes in real quick for his peace of mind and yours, if he hears you arguing with someone he comes in and say let me handle because he knows a real man is a protector. There is not a real man living who will not protect what it his. It’s about respect

Protection isn’t just about using brute, physical force against someone. A man who truly cares about you or loves you can and will protect you in other ways, whether be it with advice or stepping up to perform a task that he thinks is too dangerous for you to do.

For instance, my dad and I ain’t best of friends, we quarrel almost every time and just trying to understand him because he’s damn overprotective. There was a time I had an argument with a man staying close to my house, when I got home met dad asleep or I thought he was asleep so I told mum everything that happened few minutes later dad got up and went out not knowing he went to meet the man. I was embarrassed and happy at the same time, he came into the house and didn’t say anything about it and I didn’t say anything also, I was just smiling hard man, tough man so u care about me like this and there are countless instances like that. My point is men always have this inner love and protection within them. It’s natural with them but they act tough around the people they love and care about. They act like they don’t care but they really do, they just don’t want to show it, because once a man starts showing his love and affection, some ladies misuse it and thinks the guy is a fool and they lose in the long run.


To people out there, the men in your life be it your father, brother and friend will act like they don’t care but deep down they do and they get annoyed and sad when they can’t do anything to protect you.

In conclusion, you have to stop heaping your own definition of love on men and recognize that men love differently. A man’s love fits into three categories as have said earlier

  1. Profess
  2. Provide
  3. Protect

If you got a man that does all this for you , you’ve got it all.. TRUST ME!!!

Everything sounds simplistic, but that is the reality


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