People ask me this question very often and I don’t always know the reply to give, I just wave the question. But then I thought about it and I was confused myself

Before I answer this question, what is your own definition of intimacy because it means different things to different people. When you hear the word “intimacy” what comes to your mind first, is it sex, is it being there for each other, is it romance…what exactly is your own definition of getting intimacy

According to oxford dictionary, intimacy means closely acquainted or familiar; having a sexual relationship especially outside marriage (private and personal). Sexual activity especially an act of SEXUAL INTERCOURSE

According to arcus dictionary, intimacy is usually a secretive or illicit sexual relationship (affair)

According to google, intimacy means close familiarity or friendship

Here you have it guys three different definition of intimacy, I disagree with oxford and arcus dictionary to some extent tho…. Intimacy doesn’t always have to be related to sexual intercourse, you can have an intimate friend, colleague even family, someone you can talk to and tell everything and anything, to me that’s intimacy. Once you comfortable to talk to a particular person, you have an intimate relationship with that person already that it can be anyone even your siblings

So to answer your question, it depends on the kind of relationship you are in, what prompted the relationship, how the relationship came to play and stay in your life…..

YEAH!!!! You are in a relationship with someone be it boyfriend, girlfriend, lover anything you call it, it OK to feel aroused, it NORMAL to feel emotions when you around or with the person, it OK to cuddle, it NORMAL to kiss and do whatever it is you want to do

But you know your relationship can last without all of this, it all depends on what you want, who you are and the kind of partner you have

Ask yourself this question

“what if am in a long distant relationship”

where you get to see each other once in three months, if you really want the relationship to work, you will. Will you have SEX every three months, there’s little or no intimacy in this kind of relationship but if you want it to work, you will

In my opinion, your relationship can work without intimacy, if you want it. So, I will say it’s a YES and NO answer for all depends on who you are, what you want and your partner….


what is intimacy to you. you can always add yours in the comment section…….



Comments (8)

  1. Kate Findley
    December 23, 2018 Reply

    I like how you distinguish between the different kinds of intimacy. Personally, emotional intimacy is a bigger priority for me than physical intimacy. I do like touching, hugging, ect. but do not feel the desire for constant sex.

    • theaduni
      December 24, 2018 Reply

      Don’t rush dear… Take your time and you will be glad u did

  2. Linkeol
    December 24, 2018 Reply

    Kate Findley says:, thanks so much for the post.Really thank you! Keep writing.

    • theaduni
      December 24, 2018 Reply

      You welcome

  3. Michelle
    December 27, 2018 Reply

    Intimacy to me is sharing the real parts of yourself with someone the parts not everyone gets to see

    • theaduni
      December 27, 2018 Reply

      I know right but not everyone understands that

  4. Amanda Yorton
    December 27, 2018 Reply

    Intimacy to me is quality time together and of course, physical intimacy like kissing, hugging, cuddling. My husband would say intimacy is sex. haha

    • theaduni
      December 27, 2018 Reply

      Smiles… Men thinks intimacy is all about sex

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